Being Grateful, Giving Thanks
By Lizzy Scully
Lord most giving and resourceful,
I implore you;
make it your will
that this people enjoy
the goods and riches you naturally give,
that naturally issue from you,
that are pleasing and savory,
that delight and comfort,
though lasting but briefly,
passing away as if in a dream.
~Aztec Prayer from the 1500's
Since the religious beginnings of Thanksgiving, this particular American holiday has been expressed in different ways, but its underlying themes – being thankful and giving selflessly without expectation for anything in return – can be found throughout the world’s religions. Why are these things important? The Berthoud Recorder spoke with leaders, teachers and lay people from Loveland to Boulder to get various perspectives on the importance of giving thanks and how that relates directly to helping others.
Catholics place a lot of importance on “giving back” to God, and in doing that one is supposed to “serve the poor as if they were the masters and we the servants, rather than merely condescending to serve the less fortunate,” www.dioceseofmonterey.org. A popular prayer for Thanksgiving encourages people to open their hearts “to the concern for our fellow men and women” (http://www.catholic.org/clife/prayers/).
According to Mary Raker, a Catholic and the business manager for St. John the Baptist Catholic Church in Loveland, “when we give to other people, we are giving Christ to them.” In the scripture, she added, “it says if you give of yourself without expecting anything in return, I will multiply what you have tenfold.” Thus, members of her church give 10 percent of everything they own to the church during Sunday mass. “We trust him ultimately and with everything we have,” she explained, adding that the gift God gave Catholics, “we willingly give back to him.”
According to Pastor Scott Phillips of Berthoud’s 1st Presbyterian Church, members of his church give generously to others, especially those who are disadvantaged, because they have been given “more than enough” by God. “That is what we proclaim when we give of ourselves,” he explained. “Through our gifts of service, our prayers, our helping hands, our willingness to give, and all the other ways that we share ourselves, we proclaim the generosity of God to our church, our community, and our world. And we reach out with our time, out talents, our building and ourselves and say, ‘God is amazingly generous, and we are thankful!’”
Thanksgiving, he added, is a great time to remember these things. “It is when we look at the amazing number of blessings around us … from family and friends to food a shelter, from health and provision to sunrises and forests, from the joys of laughter to the comfort of prayer, from the life offered in Christ to God’s encouragement and instruction in the Bible … and we stand in awe.”
The Muslim perspective of giving thanks carries a similar theme, as evidenced by their saying, “Bismillah ir-Rahman ir-Rahim.” It translates to “In the name of God, most Gracious, most Compassionate,” and according to wahiduddin.net, the phrase “contains the true essence of the entire Qur’an, as well as the true essence of all religions.” Muslims say it before meals and before embarking on any significant endeavor.
It’s not enough to just say those words, however. There must be meaning behind the words. People who say the phrase with their own self-centered or selfish needs in mind, says the Web site, will “will receive their just reward ... suffering, pain and confusion,” while those who dedicate every step of their lives to “the glory and service of God,” including serving the needy, shall receive a “just reward ... peace, love and beauty.”
Buddhists also have some unique ways of expressing thanks and give to others, one of which can be summarized in the teaching, “Be grateful to everyone,” discussed by Buddhist nun and meditation master Pema Chödrön in her book, “Start Where You Are”. The slogan is about making peace with the aspects of ourselves that we have rejected, and making peace with people we dislike.
“If we were to make a list of people we don’t like – people we find obnoxious, threatening, or worthy of contempt – we would find out a lot about those aspects of ourselves that we can’t face,” Chödrön says. “They mirror us and give us the chance to befriend all of that ancient stuff that we carry around like a backpack full of granite boulders.”
Furthermore, said Buddhist practitioner and Naropa University instructor, Jim Yensen, when you make peace with yourself and others, you are transforming your outlook and your views, and appreciating things as they are. “It’s one thing to have a philosophical view that ‘things are just what they are,’ but that doesn’t help human beings very much,” he stated. “But a sense of the sacredness of things as they actually are, a sense of appreciation, that changes your life.” “Be grateful to everyone” helps people “see things in a different way,” he continued. “Every thing (and every situation) provides you with an opportunity to become free from ego, which is a source of suffering, according to Buddhism.”
An article on www.jewishaz.com by Moshe Novakoff, further illustrates the commonalities in all these religious and philosophical beliefs. “How can a person truly show that they are thankful if they continually approach the subject of their thankfulness in a mundane way?” asks the Navakoff. “There is nothing about gratitude that is static; it is operative in its truest sense when it inspires a person towards renewal and transformation.” One of the most authentic ways a person can show how thankful they are is to change the nature of who they are and how they perceive the world, he continued.
While Judaism’s actual teachings may differ slightly from Buddhist teachings, the themes underlying both are selflessness and generosity. By thinking about the points outlined in this article, we can open our eyes, hearts and minds to allow situations in life to become our teachers; and we can consider putting other people first. Think about these ideas when you give thanks this year on November 27, or, even better, donate a turkey and other items to the needy or be one of countless volunteers in the United States who volunteer their time at soup kitchens.
As Navakoff said, “Let us use gratitude as a mantra this Thanksgiving to help those who feel hopeless imagine the world and themselves new again.”
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